Being Yourself: Comfortably Living with Something You Can't Change

Being Yourself: Comfortably Living with Something You Can’t Change

            Hey readers, so as you may have noticed (inevitably) in my last post it had a theme of “Personality” with a certain personality type to go along with it. Since my blog is titled Personality and How to Be Yourself, I think it’s a given that I should probably add a blog about being yourself in there as well for some variation.

            This blog post I’m going to keep short and sweet however since it’s an introduction to this subject and rather an easy post to talk about for me. You might be guessing, what the hell does he mean living with something we can’t change? Well what I mean is quite literally that. As human beings we struggle with the subject of change on the daily, many politicians conservatives and progressives alike struggle with the subject of change. Now many changes I think can be beneficial to the environment and the way we live. That’s not exactly the type of change I’m talking about however, this change that I’m talking about, is one that I wish wouldn’t happen as much as it really does. The change that I want to talk to you all about is the change that we bring unto ourselves. That’s right, I’m talking about you. The person that you see in the mirror and think that the person you see isn’t good enough, the person that has to put makeup on just so they like you, or have to style your hair and wear good looking clothes just to be comfortable in your skin. Well I want you to know how I deal with comfortably living with something you just can’t change, your own skin.

            I understand that in certain cases people think that they can indeed change the very skin they live in and I understand where they are coming from. This type of change is not exactly the change I was going to discuss. The change I don’t want to happen is the change we do inside. Not all the physical change such as hair dye, makeup, nice clothes, tattoos, piercings, or even in drastic situations, the very scars you give yourself. I understand how nice it feels to most people to be part of something, such as a social group or simply the general public, in high school more than other cases this rings extremely true. The struggling teen fights for survival socially by trying to fit in in a group that they probably don’t even like half the people in because they are full of drama. I completely understand what that feels like, being accepted by someone, anyone, anyone who makes you feel comfortable, and important. Freshman year of high school I was so determined to have everyone be my friend because I didn’t like being hated. I tried so hard, yet when people still didn’t like me for reasons I will never understand by the end of the year, I got the biggest wake-up call of my life. No matter what I do, I can’t make everyone happy. So I stopped trying, and miraculously, because of some unknown mystical force at work, people started to like me better. I had one friend of mine even flat out tell me they liked me better because I never let whatever came my way affect me very seriously and didn’t even try to be everyone’s friend, I was just friends with whoever accepted me. I learned that, no matter what you do, not everyone will like you for who you are. That’s something that you can’t change, is who you really are inside. As much of a false persona that you put on for others, there is always that part of you buried within that is your true self and your true feelings and thoughts. I promise you people may not always like what you have to say or think about something, but someone else will. You may cover up who you really are but none of it will matter in the long run for your future. Chances are, those people you want to impress in the hallways now, you won’t even see in college or possibly even for the rest of your life. So why does it matter what they think of you now? That’s the mindset that I have developed for myself over the years and it has genuinely changed my life for the better. That’s the kind of change I want you guys to look for in yourselves if you can. I understand this is just hopeful banter to some of you. But I challenge you to try and be yourself for a whole day, say what you think, find your real friends and don’t complain the whole day. Your whole life will be turned upside down but watch how much better it gets. As always guys, thanks for reading J love y’all. Peace!