Being Yourself: Perfect Balance

Being Yourself: Perfect Balance

            It takes a lot to be yourself. Don’t get me wrong. You have heard it plenty of times before, and have heard it from a million different sources. They make it sound so easy. So simple. As if you could accomplish it with just a lift of a hand and a snap of a finger. I know just as well as all of you that it’s simply not that simple. There is self-esteem issues, the feeling of fitting in, the struggle with your inner demons, etc. It’s these inner demons that set everyone away from truly being yourself. We are one in the same. It’s the common struggle to be who you really are and be truly happy. The demons never stop trying to take control of your life and make you miserable, they are our doubt, our hesitation, our shy, our insecurities, and our worst enemy. Yet through all this we have our moments where we truly shine and are truly happy. It’s this balance that makes us the perfect us we can be. We need to be able to balance our demons with the correct offset of happy and we find who we are. One of the best ways to do this is to say no. As shown in a recent blog I read “A Simple Guide to Being Yourself Instead of People Pleasing” (http://tinybuddha.com/blog/be-yourself-instead-of-people-pleasing/) saying no is a powerful tool and can help you on your road to becoming who you are and finding the things that truly make you happy.

               Well how do I know when I’m really being myself? Good question beautiful reader. The answer lies in your friends. My friends? Yes your friends. When you are with friends, do you change what you say to appease their opinion? Do you put on a persona that they are used to seeing when they are around you? Do you forcibly make them like you by appeasing to them and their likes so in turn, they will like you? If you answered yes to any of these, chances are, you aren’t really being yourself and in fact are just putting on a façade for everyone around you. I admit it takes a lot to be yourself, especially with the fear of being rejected by those you like. I totally get it but if they reject you then those friends weren’t really worth being with in the first place. I suggest being with those that will like you for you and your own opinions and thoughts and ideals, not for some made up bullshit you throw together to get someone to like your personality. I like people who are authentically themselves and not someone they are pretending to be. To be able to balance these insecure demons with the authenticity is my main goal for you readers in this post. I want you all to be able to find balance in your life and see the good with the bad and make do with what you got. I know you can do it. I just want you all to see your worth and how important you are. As always guys, thanks for reading and I love you all! Peace!

Personality: The Liberty Scale

Personality: The Liberty Scale

            Complete and utter balance, perfect, incomprehensible, rigid, balance. This person is all that and more. In our daily lives we struggle to fit everything we love to do with everything we have to do all in a single week. Sometimes it’s easier for others, whereas for some it is a constant struggle to find even a moment for yourself rather than be caught up doing some other activity requiring our undivided attention. From activity to activity we drive across town, location to location, room to room, etc.

            There are those however, that have found all the times and schedules that fit their day perfectly like a winning Tetris game. These are the people that run by the clock to all of their activities and nail it perfectly on the dot to everything. The funny thing is they barely have time for themselves but they seem to be okay with it most of the time. The world and its schedule is their masterpiece. But my question is as follows:

Is it so wrong to have a little chaos in your life once in a while? Maybe even possibly enjoy it?

           

Sure it would be nice to have everything in your life figured out but sometimes I think it would be great to fly by the seat of your pants every now and then and enjoy the ride, but other times I can see why having a planned out schedule would be nice to. Personally, I’m horrible at planning things out and figuring out times for people because I try to compensate everyone and my activities at the same time and it doesn’t always work like that. A lot of the time I’m barely holding on to my own schedule and most of the time, other people know my schedule better than I do. Which I think is pretty pathetic.

            The people that manage to have a perfectly planned life, balancing all their activities with friends and what they love to do (Codename: The Liberty Scale) is a life I would like to live. Because not only do I have 8 million things going on (or at least it feels that way most of the time) but I really wanna be with good friends and family at the same time. Life is a cruel mistress though and it’s really hard to plan everything out the way you want. I will say however to those of you that find yourself sounding like a liberty scale to let loose just a little bit, doesn’t have to be a whole lot, just enough to sense a difference in your routine and see if you like it. You may just be surprised with yourself. I know with all my activities it took me forever to find the ones I’m truly interested and a lot of trial and error with those sports and activities that I participated in. In fact, it wasn’t until freshman year did I realize that I really wanted to get more into theatre, drama, and choir activities rather than sports. Some of you it may take longer, others, maybe less time. But find what truly drives you and make the most of it. You’ll become happier and find balance in your life easier. Love you guys. As always, Peace!

Being Yourself: Realizing the World Around You

Being Yourself: Realizing the World Around You

            In this world, everyone is bound to disappoint someone else without even meaning to. Sometimes we will mess up, fall down, make mistakes, ask for a redo and never get one, etc. It’s these things that cause so many problems in life and make us less than who we are and who we could be. Have you ever once looked around and ever wondered what you are doing there in the first place?

“Well I’m at the Gym”

Why?

“To work out”

Why are you working out?

“To be fit”

Why do you need to be fit?

“So I’m not fat compared to everyone else”

Why do you feel fat compared to everyone else?

“Because they make me feel that way…”

            It’s these feelings that could happen in so many more situations than just that one such as makeup, medicines, sports, clubs, social groups, peer pressure, and so on. How many times have you done something for yourself and never once cared what your friends or the guy next to you would think of you? In most cases, the answer is almost always never. So many things in this world are because of someone else’s influence.

“Well I’m choosing my own college”

Who said you had to go to college?

“My high school…”

Exactly.

This whole world has got us set on a specific social order that has us run according to its schedule and its rules to promote peace and “prosperity”. Never once to we realize that we are following it blindly and fully trusting it will take us to where we want to go. Never taking the reins for ourselves and guiding our own stallion lives to where we would like them to be. Now I’m not saying anarchy and complete isolation from social order and government is a good thing at all. That would be horrendous. I am saying however, that we should break away from the norm and find our own paths. Some guidance along the way is definitely necessary but it’s okay for us to make mistakes and learn from them. After all, isn’t that what life is about? In schools the teachers give us a lesson, we learn from it, and we take a test over what we know. Life smacks a test right in our face and see how we do, from those tests we learn the lessons.

            For the shy people who are afraid to take the step away from order and follow your own road, I completely understand. I believe that’s what friends are for, providing knew challenges for you and getting you out of your comfort zone. I believe everyone will make it their on their own time and their own terms. For me, I would like to break away as soon as possible and see all the opportunities life holds for me that I would love to do and close my eyes to my own little oblivion. I want to immerse myself in the things that I love to do and never shy away from them because as long as it makes me happy, I don’t know where else I would rather be.

I love you all for reading and putting up with me and my ranting! Peace