Being Yourself: Perfect Balance

Being Yourself: Perfect Balance

 

            It takes a lot to be yourself. Don’t get me wrong. You have heard it plenty of times before, and have heard it from a million different sources. They make it sound so easy. So simple. As if you could accomplish it with just a lift of a hand and a snap of a finger. I know just as well as all of you that it’s simply not that simple. There is self-esteem issues, the feeling of fitting in, the struggle with your inner demons, etc. It’s these inner demons that set everyone away from truly being yourself. We are one in the same. It’s the common struggle to be who you really are and be truly happy. The demons never stop trying to take control of your life and make you miserable, they are our doubt, our hesitation, our shy, our insecurities, and our worst enemy. Yet through all this we have our moments where we truly shine and are truly happy. It’s this balance that makes us the perfect us we can be. We need to be able to balance our demons with the correct offset of happy and we find who we are. One of the best ways to do this is to say no. As shown in a recent blog I read “A Simple Guide to Being Yourself Instead of People Pleasing” (http://tinybuddha.com/blog/be-yourself-instead-of-people-pleasing/) saying no is a powerful tool and can help you on your road to becoming who you are and finding the things that truly make you happy.

                Well how do I know when I’m really being myself? Good question beautiful reader. The answer lies in your friends. My friends? Yes your friends. When you are with friends, do you change what you say to appease their opinion? Do you put on a persona that they are used to seeing when they are around you? If so, your brain probably unconsciously doesn’t see them as a true friend, because when you are with that certain someone you find to be your best friend, you hide nothing. You see them as true and trustworthy so you tell them everything. You don’t feel ashamed when you are with them. You feel at peace and like you fit in. You speak your mind, and they listen, not arguing, let you finish, and then argue with you playfully just to piss you off. You two could fight for about a day maximum and then you wouldn’t be able to stand it anymore and come running back to each other again the very next day because you couldn’t stand being away and not talking for that long. This person is the one you watch hours’ worth of shows with, eating several containers of ice cream and not feel ashamed with. If you can find these people, then you are set for life, because they will help provide you with perfect balance. As long as you are being yourself, you could never steer yourself wrong. As always guys, thanks for reading and I love you all!