Being Yourself: Perfect Balance

Being Yourself: Perfect Balance

            It takes a lot to be yourself. Don’t get me wrong. You have heard it plenty of times before, and have heard it from a million different sources. They make it sound so easy. So simple. As if you could accomplish it with just a lift of a hand and a snap of a finger. I know just as well as all of you that it’s simply not that simple. There is self-esteem issues, the feeling of fitting in, the struggle with your inner demons, etc. It’s these inner demons that set everyone away from truly being yourself. We are one in the same. It’s the common struggle to be who you really are and be truly happy. The demons never stop trying to take control of your life and make you miserable, they are our doubt, our hesitation, our shy, our insecurities, and our worst enemy. Yet through all this we have our moments where we truly shine and are truly happy. It’s this balance that makes us the perfect us we can be. We need to be able to balance our demons with the correct offset of happy and we find who we are. One of the best ways to do this is to say no. As shown in a recent blog I read “A Simple Guide to Being Yourself Instead of People Pleasing” (http://tinybuddha.com/blog/be-yourself-instead-of-people-pleasing/) saying no is a powerful tool and can help you on your road to becoming who you are and finding the things that truly make you happy.

               Well how do I know when I’m really being myself? Good question beautiful reader. The answer lies in your friends. My friends? Yes your friends. When you are with friends, do you change what you say to appease their opinion? Do you put on a persona that they are used to seeing when they are around you? Do you forcibly make them like you by appeasing to them and their likes so in turn, they will like you? If you answered yes to any of these, chances are, you aren’t really being yourself and in fact are just putting on a façade for everyone around you. I admit it takes a lot to be yourself, especially with the fear of being rejected by those you like. I totally get it but if they reject you then those friends weren’t really worth being with in the first place. I suggest being with those that will like you for you and your own opinions and thoughts and ideals, not for some made up bullshit you throw together to get someone to like your personality. I like people who are authentically themselves and not someone they are pretending to be. To be able to balance these insecure demons with the authenticity is my main goal for you readers in this post. I want you all to be able to find balance in your life and see the good with the bad and make do with what you got. I know you can do it. I just want you all to see your worth and how important you are. As always guys, thanks for reading and I love you all! Peace!